Heartbreaks
Once I asked my therapist, a tiny little desperate : “What can I do more? What am I missing? What other tools are available??”. The subject: a heartbreak. Those that feel unbearable. Those that feel painful as hell. We’ve been there before, but we forget how horribilis it is. My therapist said smiling what I say to my patients: " nothing; you aren’t missing any steps… it is like that ." It 's simply true. It’s normal + OK to feel desperate, sad, numb, depressed, abandoned, rejected, lost, lonely, and in pain. For 6 months, or even a year. But you don’t have to be, neither do the process, completely alone or in silence. The purge is important. A therapist allows you the perfect set for that. And then there will be those miraculous moments when you start to bloom again, feeling that you’re over it to yet realize that it might not be so true, afterall. Because a song kicks in that reminds you of both, then another song (CHANGE THE GODDAM PLAYLIST), or you happen to pa...