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Heartbreaks

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  Once I asked my therapist, a tiny little desperate : “What can I do more? What am I missing? What other tools are available??”. The subject: a heartbreak. Those that feel unbearable. Those that feel painful as hell. We’ve been there before, but we forget how horribilis it is. My therapist said smiling what I say to my patients: " nothing; you aren’t missing any steps… it is like that ." It 's simply true. It’s normal + OK to feel desperate, sad, numb, depressed, abandoned, rejected, lost, lonely, and in pain. For 6 months, or even a year. But you don’t have to be, neither do the process, completely alone or in silence. The purge is important. A therapist allows you the perfect set for that. And then there will be those miraculous moments when you start to bloom again, feeling that you’re over it to yet realize that it might not be so true, afterall. Because a song kicks in that reminds you of both, then another song (CHANGE THE GODDAM PLAYLIST), or you happen to pa...

Keeping correspondance

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Keeping correspondence with someone. Often for many years. This, it is, one of the purest acts of identity-integrity; one of the finest too we may encounter in belonging , and in reminding our inner self ~ when forgotten ~ of the growth and expansion that’s been happening throughout our journey(s). I myself have 2 persons with whom I correspond for over a decade. It started spontaneously, as it usually does, and it solidified due to geography, new paths in life. It's also a beautiful act and exercise of matureness, empathy, generosity., between ourselves and the important Other. And the intimacy - is been beautiful to witness - evolved and grew despite the years of physical distance and almost zero contact over voice. The act of writing letters (it can be of course a longer email) is far more intimate, revolutionary, therapeutic, creative, and easy, that may appear. Do you keep correspondence? What’s been teaching you? And do you send any image-poetry-music- attachments with it...